Fourth grade emotional and psychological: Right and Wrong
By the time your child is nine or ten, fourth grade in most instances, it is reasonable to be able to expect that he knows the difference between right and wrong. That being said, it is important to remember that your child’s moral compass is not flawless at this point. What you should be looking for is his ability to make clear cut right and wrong decisions. It is right to help a friend pick up his room after they played there all afternoon. It is wrong to take money out of your wallet, or to write on the wall. Additionally, the ability to discern right and wrong should be getting better all the time. It is reasonable to hold your child accountable for the most obvious choices, choices between the black and the white. Where the choice is not so clear whether something is right or wrong, where there are gray areas, these are the places that allow you to express your opinions. Lecturing a child at this age might not be as useful as earnest discussions that will help your child make responsible decisions. Additionally, allowing discussions will help keep the lines of communication open , and as your child approaches the ‘tweens and teen years you will be glad those lines were maintained.