Helping your fourth grader deal with peer pressure, part 2.
Last time we talked about things you could do to help your child deal with peer pressure. While you can speak to other parents, know your child’s friends, make your house a meeting place, and provide your child with group activities that are guided by morals you want your child to learn, ultimately your child is the one “in the trenches”. It is not the times that your child is right under your nose that he will have to deal with peer pressure. It is always the times when they are not under your direct influence that will be the most pressure inducing. The answer to this is to teach your child how to deal directly with peer pressure. You have heard the old adage that says, basically, to teach your child what is right, and they will remember it as they get older. If your child knows what you consider the right thing to do, and what is acceptable within the family, then it is easier for them to take that knowledge and use it as armor against those people who might lead them down a path that will get them in trouble. Teach your child to say , “No”. And let them know that it is always alright for them to use you as an excuse if they don’t want to do something, or feel uncomfortable with something. Let them know it is okay to say, “No, I am not going to do that, my Mom would have a fit!” Give your child an out, and let them know that you will come and get them from any and all situations that feel wrong or uncomfortable, no questions asked. Oh, and one other thing, be open to talk to your child, not just preach at them, or do all the teaching. Be willing to hear how they feel about things.